W and I made arrangements to meet at a restaurant last night to discuss kids/budget. Then W sends me an fyi text that she had taken 2 pieces of furniture from the house while I was at work. I get home to find not only those pieces of furniture gone, but some other things including a tv, table, clothes, dishware, odds and ends from drawers.....did not put me in a good mood, so probably should haven cancelled our meeting, but wanted to get it over with.
W then picks kids up later and waltzes in like nothing- didn't help my attitude. So later in the night, we meet at the restaurant and right away she asks me why we're even there. Um, it was her idea to meet and discuss these things...
So we were just bitter and snippy with each other discussing the kids schedule, even though when it came down to it, we were both in agreement. Moved on to budget and that didn't go much better. She kept throwing little digs in (intentional or not) about the atty telling her to take me for everything, but that's not what she wanted to do. I felt like she was holding that over me throughout our discussion. Yet again, did not help my attitude.
We eventually cooled off a little and were able to talk about our interaction going forward. I told her I wanted to be friendly with her, but was still battling some fresh emotions. She said she quit MC because she felt like she had nothing to give during our sessions (I agreed that I had seen that out of her).
We left with things still up in the air. These type of interactions clearly don't help our feelings towards each other. It didn't help that as soon as we sat down, I noticed a couple of the OM circle of friends sitting in a booth across from us. I think W noticed them too, as she moved her seat as to not face their direction.
So I'm currently drafting an email apologizing for my attitude towards her and telling her that I'd like to be able to work things out amicably. I need to overcome these resurfacing emotions and get along with her for our sake, for the kids sake and for any chance of finding our way back to each other down the road...
