I hear all of you. And honestly - she's probably ok. I gree that she's a symptom or at least a symbol to me. A lot of people on these boards say that your old marriage is dead - and I have always accepted that. I guess what this has brought into crystal clear focus to me is that my STBX is not the man he used to be either - and frankly this one is a liar with questionable judgement and I share kids with him
As to Lisa being around my kids - I think most of us can understand the primal reaction I am having. And truthfully- I almost hope it does work out between them, because the alternative is an endless parade of women in my kids lives - and at the moment that seems very possible (the one statistic that seems readily available is the dismal rate of success between affair partners).
I have to see him at pick up and drop off next week and then I get a break for two weeks because I'm taking the kids to Disneyland- I'm sure I'll be able to better control my negativity by then.
