From now on, I have to put my own needs and my daughter's needs first. But I don't know how to balance the two.
Ahoy, your D is a HS freshman? She has 3 1/2 years left with you, and then will probably be off on her own, at college perhaps. That's really not that long. I'm not saying ignore yourself for 3 1/2 years, not at all, but realize that the balancing act is short-term. Right now, the balance needs to be skewed towards her well-being, later towards you. Just something to keep in mind as you are making moving decisions.
