Is it too late?

[123Gwen]

I am still examining myself and seeing a counselor so I can't answer that in any meaningful way yet.

I lost 20 pounds. I am exercising. I set my husband free to go on his journey and I have only initiated contact twice. I am learning how to do things that I have never done before. It may be necessary but I am learning new things and I am taking care of things.

My husband is not the man I married at the moment. I am not saying this because I have been abandoned or betrayed. The man I have loved and truly liked in every way disappeared overnight. He did this to everyone including his children. We were best friends and I am grieving not because our marriage is in trouble but because he has ceased to exist for anyone he ever loved and cared about.

My friend is gone. I am working on trying to protect what remains for my best friend. I want to thank you MrBond because your remark about being a "better woman" really help me finally see that this is not about me. MLC is different and the LBS needs to be "better" in their own way for themselves. I am doing that but Michelle's advice was LRT and so the idea of making changes quickly does not really apply here.

20 pounds lost is a big deal. Going dark when I want to reach out is a big deal. Not having expectations is huge. Being sympathetic but carrying on is what the books say to do. MLC is not about me correct???