Do I walk away from WAW? (2)

[South74]

What frustrates me is her saying I have to let her go. I have! She won't go. I asked her to move out in early Sept! She still seems to be making this my decision somehow, even though I have completely stepped aside and let her do whatever she's wanted, and doubled down mg efforts to run the family without her.

from my situatuion i would never give someone the green light again to leave. think i found that out to late.
read something about not making decisions for them somewhere on the forum but it was a bit to late for me.

similar behaviour to my W . i had to be the one to ask her to leave she wouldnt leave on her own.

the amount of times she would say she was leaving and then when i agreed it would suddenly change to me throwing her out .
not one of my finest moments but remember saying to her "why dont you grow a pair of balls and just leave"

even after i agreed to let her leave and in conversations in the last few days at home i would say why dont you just stay and we can work this out she used to say
" but you agreed to let me go why are you changing your mind"
so i used to say
" ok then dont leave and we can sort this out "
and she would then reply "but i have to leave "
this would go on for days .
someitmes i wonder if i just never agreed to her leaving but think she would have just got more outragous until i did thropw her out.

something that seems to have backfired is my ability to run the family/house on my own, something that im sure she thought i would completely fail at . she passed comment to my daughter one time that give it a few weeks and the house will be a disaster and you will be all beging me to return.
well im keepping ontop of everything and feeling pretty good about it but then sometimes i think that it made her feel even more worthless to the family when she did come home for a trial as she diditn need to do anything because i did it all.

so think there must be a very fine balance of what you and your W do regards the family/house.