Can I get her back??..

[LoveMyW]

So update time!!..

Started my new job today and although it's not what I usually do for actual work, it coincides with one of my favourite hobbies/pastimes so I'm pretty happy about that.. Full time as well, which was apparently going to be hard for me to find around here.. Only took 1 week of looking though!!..

On the W front, well there have been a couple of small wins that I could note.. One win is that she is wanting to spend some time around me (having a coffee and chat for an hour or so when picking the kids up or dropping them off).. Another small win is that she has been talking about we/us lately.. Not in the future sense, but about past stuff.. This didn't happen earlier in S..

I know none of it is huge, and I'm taking them as baby steps, but they are worth noting anyway.. She also seems to be asking for a little more help from me with certain things.. Once again, nothing major, and some of it is "maintenance" style stuff, but that never happened earlier in S either..

Does she want me back, is it the walls slowly coming down or is it just asking as a "friend"??.. Who knows, and honestly, I'm not going to mind read nor am I going to look to far in to it.. I do ask myself "why me" though as she has a good family base, and nothing she has asked me is things they can't handle..


On another note, I have been doing a lot of visiting since returning, and a few of the visits have been to W's family members (at their request).. I must admit, it feels good not to have any judging going on from their perspective.. FIL and MIL have both said they still look at me like a son, and extended family feel the same way too (aunts, uncles etc).. They are all wanting me to spend more time around them as well (invites back etc)..

W is fine with this so that's cool too.. Maybe not breaking up the family aspect may make the path home smoother if it happens..


Finally, I know I've copped a couple of 2x4's in the past for worrying about what W has liked on Facebook, or shared post that are "womens based inspirational quotes" (I would call them something else, but it will get censored!!)..

Anyway, she liked one today, and yes, it can be taken 2 ways, but I think it rings true for most of us on here if you look at the positive side.. It was:

"JUST BECAUSE IT ISN'T HAPPENING NOW, DOESN'T MEAN IT WON'T HAPPEN"

Take from that what you will, but the words do ring true as a pick me up.. Maybe that is her frame of mind, or maybe it was just something she though was good.. Either way, I'm glad she shared those words as they hit me in a good place for MYSELF..

If you look deeper in to it, it may not even be about our W/H's, but it does instill a feeling of "everything will be ok" somewhere down the track..