I have a strong feeling you probably need to use all 5 love languages on your wife for a while.

However, if she keeps using Acts of Services as her love language after she emotionally harms you---mirror it back.

She subconsciously expressed this is the love language she associates with penance.

M: 62
H: 67
Bomb dropped: October 2012
R: 4-2014

I've never regretted saying "I'm sorry"