Yes, your response tells me I may have still came of like I was doing this as a ruse or that my intention was reverse psychology. I did not intend that. You said "Ask yourself: would I spend this time with the kids if we were back together?" and the answer would be yes. This needs to be done, for the sake of my being a father, and to make up for my lack of attention to them in the past. I think I was looking for an agreement that the "side effects" were in good possibility as a result of doing the right thing.
