You said you want to help her because she is not the best planner. I think helping her move out is a mistake. Talk to your coach but separating is a huge step and it might possibly lead to more problems.
Do you think this is more of a MLC or strictly intimacy issues. Intimacy issues can turn into a MLC so it is great you are getting help. I wish I would have found this board sooner.
1) I would not move out and if she decides to move out I would not help her take that step by doing the work. That being said you don't need to stand in her way either. This is part of the detachment process Michelle keeps talking about. 2) Withholding affection might be part of the problem. She seems to want to connect but you are having trouble expressing how to get there. Don't deny affection if you know what you want. It may just make things worse. 3) see number 2 and the. The cycle starts all over again.
What is your goal? Is it small and measurable? Actions speak louder than words. Also lots of relationship talk is a turn off. I am really new here but this is what I am getting from the books.
M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters BD: 5/14 Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW D Final 9/17
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” ― Maya Angelou
