my chance = HIS chance

[makingmagic]

Hey Sunshine.... where can I read your story? Where did you get the help you needed? IC is not available to me just yet.

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I am sorry, if many of you feel that the questions I ask are the same over & over. I see it differently. The questions I am currently asking are so that I can understand... fully.

Like, "how" I am not valuing myself? and in return "how" you would value yourself differently than I am? The second question I am asking, is "why" many of you feel /expect that HE should be "ready" to commit more than what he currently has. I don't understand when he is just coming out of MLC & probably still requiring space & time to finish baking. This is the advice I read on other threads.

Many of you say I keep asking the same questions, below are the questions from this thread that I have asked, some answered ... some not. Because I am asked to re-read my threads, I have not seen any duplicate questions...

Questions I have asked:

1) The Squirrel analogy.. is this not the right way?
2) asking for a suggestion on how to talk with him, so that I can apply new behaviours.... rec'd help but will continue to ask as each situation arises. (t-giving, "carry on", bidding, to go/not go away with him)
3) asking how to place him second, when he knows my day and my reason would come across as game playing
4) asking if T-giving scenario is weird.... rec'd comments
5) asking how to get his respect and pursuit while dealing with my attraction to him and wanting back my family life/home?
6) how to be placed higher on his priority list?
7) how to be more of a challenge? To have things more on my terms?
8) how can he feel as tho he has lost me, now that we are re-connecting?
9) asking what is the way to help him past his feeling that I will run a mile if he gives me an inch?
10) asking to be shown where I am not following advice?
11) is this piecing? what exactly is the definition of piecing?
12) suggestions on what to do next
13) has he progressed? have we (as a couple) progressed?
14) where his actions/words are not matching? where my actions/words aren't matching. What actions/interactions would be better?

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He called this morning... discussed work & then he brought up a heated argument that he had with his mom this morning. Then mentioned to me that he was sharing it with me.

He also asked if I would pick him up (his convenience) and then go pick up another vehicle out of town... this would require that I drop all that I am doing. 180. "no sorry.. I am deep in other work right now". <<<< If I want respect, I cannot be dropping things to accommodate him. Yes, this is a business request, however, its not a priority from what I am doing. He was satisfied with my answer.