>>>>One of my questions to all is "how" I am not valuing myself? (please be as specific as you can)...
OK you asked....e........
How do you get from this?
>>>Tonight, he offered for me to come over & have pizza with him... I am going to decline & instead grab take out with DD & watch some TV & go to sleep early (I didn't sleep much... he SNORES!!).
To this
>>>he invited me over for dinner & next thing you know I was going through his phone,
What happened with your daughter? I bet she was pleased!
And what about GAL? What about all the valuing or respecting yourself more....Lapdog, doormat, accepting crumbs are all words that come to mind. He Whistles and you go running.
>>>geez, the guy is still coming out of his MLC
This Guy is not in MLC, he is fed up of you pressurising, and being clingy and needy.......so much so, he asks you to leave.
>>>When I read about posters who's husbands slowly return, the response usually is accepted by the readers and the general advice is to go slow & don't expect much from him.... I am wondering why I am not getting more of this kind of advice?...
His advances towards you appear to be commensurate to his testosterone level....but you see it as piecing.
The "business deal" is a fiasco....if this was a straight forward divorce, then the business would be split 50/50, and would not take this long to resolve.....
He is playing you ! Matt165 had the same observation.
In order to love someone, you have to respect them. By being a puppet he cannot respect you, therefore try as he might he cannot love you, not to the level you are wanting.
Thats why we are all telling you over and over again, to make a life for yourself, respect yourself, and leave him alone.....only then will things fall into place.
