I'm probably the worst person on these boards to be giving you advice at this exact moment, but I will anyway. I would just consider what's best for you and your daughter and leave STBX out of the equation as much as possible. Unfortunately considering what's best for your daughter will probably involve proximity to your STBX. And of course - uprooting Hisgh Schoolers is supposed to be tough.
That being said- I have to say how grateful I am that if this had to happen, it happened after I had moved back home. Having my parents and my sister's family to lean on has been huge for me and my daughters. I would seriously conisder your home state, but that's me, and I am certainly very biased at the moment.
