Hey Gwen. I hope you are doing OK. It seems like you are becoming very strong and clear. I know it does not feel like that inside, necessarily, but you gotta start somewhere. You making your points and boundaries the way you are is great!
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That is a sad slice of irony
Well.... irony is written all over the MLC rollercoaster. I think it is stamped on the entrance ticket.
For example, it's ironic that xh said that the kids "would be fine" and now they don't really want anything to do with him.
XH said that he had to leave because we were dysfunctional and it was unhealthy for the kids. Ha... well now that he's found his *healthy* and well-balanced r, the kids are doing much better. Not... and .... Not.
Or, the kicker- I begged xh to get a vasectomy reversal. I made all the appointments, took him to his appointments, took him to the surgery, took care of him after surgery. Well, I didn't get pregnant, but OW did!
Oh yeah... irony... the list is long, my friend.
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That's why I am so confused with Michelle's advice. Basically I am LRT and going dark because he is deep in MLC. I take that to mean it is really down to GAL!
MLC is a horse of a different color. That is why it is truly so important to set boundaries and focus on yourself. It is really not much you can do to influence your spouse during this time. I think there are things you could do, for sure, to close the door totally, but really, this is their time to spin and blow around. It's a matter of when the time comes, see where he lands. In the meantime, keep doing you. When he does land, you want to be the best you that you possible can be. If you want to be there for him, or if he wants you there for him, you will be ready. And, even if you don't or he doesn't, you will be stronger than ever. Either way... you will need to be strong and ready. And you will be. That is when you will find peace and happiness. (I'm looking forward to it! ;))
