Newbie Errors- Restarting the R- part 2

[Bart42]

Right now, she doesn't see they don't deserve her response, however, some day she will see it.

We are still waiting for that someday. I spent the week on a business trip, and due to plans made 8+ months ago, W and the kids joined me for a long weekend after the work part had concluded. No real connection between me and W and the trip ended up being all about the kids, which was understandable as they were around all the time and there was no 1:1 time for W and me. Still, felt W was a bit detached and I still am not feeling much, if anything, towards her.

So W tells we today "we need to talk" and mentions how she has not been able to live up to no contact even though she wants to, how OM has stated that he wants her to go through with D and for them to be together, but that despite her strong conviction the A remains in the past, she still is talking to him about the non-A stuff (like OMs personal sitch) and how hard it is for her to let go even though she wants to fix M and be done with OM.

Part of me wanted to tell her how much I feel for her and how hard it must be for her, but instead I maintained a "either you end all contact with him or we are done " stance. Not as threat, just recognizing we are not going to be able to fix us if she she cannot let feelings for OM go. She recognizes NC is the only way for her to move forward, but I'm not sure she is strong enough to maintain it. She even mentioned how she blocked OM on her phone but then unblocked him because she "feels bad" for him and wants everyone to "be good" with the outcome/end of all this. She needs and wants to not care about OM anymore but is having a very hard time getting to that point.

So the honesty continues at a level it hasn't been at for a long, long time, but by the same token we have a long, long way to go.