Oh Ss, I know exactly how you feel. I am going through the angry stage right now too. I can't seem to do anything right these days. Sometimes I want to be kind and compassionate because I think he is going through a crisis and sometimes I want to just write him off and never speak to him again and I can't help but think to myself, why did I deserve to be treated like this? Like I was worth nothing to him in the end.
I don't think I have any hope anymore, at least not unless he has an epiphany over the coming years once he realizes that the grass isn't greener with the OW. He seems to have finally chosen her over me as of last Sunday. Furthermore, he has burned so many bridges, I am on the cusp of moving out of our dream house, and now all of his co-workers and our friends know what that he had an affair that precipitated our break-up. Not sure how I have any chance to save this or even influence it at this point.
After the bomb drop, I tried so hard to be wonderful and patient, to be the kind of woman he would be crazy to leave, and it just wasn't enough to combat the allure of the OW in the end. We would go to dinner, and the chemistry was so amazing that we couldn't stop talking. He told me that I was beautiful and I noticed him staring at me on multiple occasions. We had amazing sex (ironic that he was now cheating on HER with me!). We shared fun activities like riding horses and going to the spa. But in the end, he was determined to leave me. So I felt rejected and heartbroken all over again. Looking back, I never had a chance.
Engaged Aug 2009 Fiancé had doubts Jan 2010 Happily re-engaged July 2012 Discovery of affair July 2014 Separated July 2014 Fiancé is confused about whom to choose Chose the OW Oct 2014
