Never had a weight/health problem. Wife thinks I'm attractive and trim in that department (and beyond). The main gripe was my general negativity and lack of assertiveness. I was down about my job, my attitude to life was lack lustre and there was no passion. I'd always had purpose and drive whilst I was studying and when I initially started my job but then my job changed and I became demoralised.. and so my life became.
I identified this and tried to re-engage with my hobbies and sought IC to tackle insecurities in my own life. I have a much more positive outlook now and I am getting more strength to adopt a healthier mindset.
I read many books, blogs and became more pro-active to achieving my goals but I was and still am hindered by my desire to rekindle the connection with my wife - almost that I feel I'm on hold until I get a positive sign that things could improve. Trying to be honest with myself here - I think I have trouble letting go and wanting affirmation that there was progress in the relationship but by seeking that, I was inadvertently pushing her away with all the discussions and arguments.
Anyhow, I phoned her this evening to suggest leaving the divorce petition until she's moved out and asked her to consider couple's counselling together as a final attempt. She agreed to postpone the divorce proceedings and would have a think about the counselling.
Unfortunately, I do not know of any solution-oriented marriage-positive therapists in my area.
