Bright, There could be any number of reasons why he's not responded back. He could be very busy and left his phone in his truck, the battery has died or he hasn't had a chance to look at his phone. Please try not to assume what he may or may not be doing. I don't see him pushing your buttons at all. Give the man some time to acknowledge the text message, i.e., not everyone lives for their phone messages. Now, if he doesn't respond by Thursday, then I would say, something has happened and he's not acknowledging it.
Now about my comment about there are some who live off the radar for many years to come. I have a DB friend who is in that situation. Her h walked out just about 15 years ago and they are still living separately and they have not divorced. She went on w/her life, he still pays the mortgage on the home she lives in and he's moved to and from the west/east coast and now lives back in the state where he originally lived. He has purchased a farm and is raising some nice animals and continues to work his day job. How are things? Well, they remain cordial and the last time I heard from her, they were still emailing periodically. So, yes, some do remain off the radar for many years until someone makes a move to divorce and finally let go and move on for themselves.
Yes, the person in crisis will treat the spouse like a stranger or better yet, their mother/father figure or in your case, he may look to you as a someone who will take care of things for him. In fact, he knows you will.
For now, sit quietly, don't assume anything and let's see what transpires next. Assumptions will give you stinking thinking each and every time and you know what? Generally 99% of the time that stinking thinking is incorrect.
Keep the focus on you and your life. You've got a lot of living to do.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
