I don't know who is more confused by that exchange. Me or her.
You are only confused because you are trying to mind-read, process, and put the magic marriage jigsaw puzzle back together.
Stop.
Drop the rope means drop the rope. Work on what you are supposed to be working on, and don't think about the rest. It's difficult to NOT think about something, but it's much less difficult if your mind is already occupied on something else (i.e. because you are focusing on what you are supposed to be working on). It's like magic, only it's real, and it works - that's why it's such a good strategy and why it is advised.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.