no SiNGLE act or omission or comment, will determine the outcome of this, short of violence.
You can wait for another text or send a simple one yourself. But make sure it's factual and ONLY about the kids or a business matter than cannot wait. I'm sorry I cannot recall the ages of your kids at the moment and can't check it while I'm on the computer typing. Assuming they're young enough, this applies and if not, if they are older, then come up with analogous situations. "H, the dishwasher broke again and the latest estimate seems high to me. Am thinking of replacing it, but wanted your input. Any thoughts?" This way you are involving him without blaming him. And you are not forcing him to "Come over" and be with you, but if he wants to "look at the dishwasher himself, you can choose whether to stay or be gone.
And when you feel up to it, you can "share" kid news that might make him wish he was part of the family more. Like a photo --a note that says "here is son right after he made his foul shot" and send that.
OR something like that^^, so he can wish he'd been there in person, but NOT in a way that makes it seem as if you are blaming him or chastising him.
Make sense?
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