Nope. Again, more rug sweeping. Just doing something fun together is just a band-aid to the problems underneath. It's avoiding the issue and doesn't work. Marriage problems are like a cancer. You can try to cover it up and pretend it isn't there. But it will grow and fester and come back ten times worse.
Wow, never thought about it this way. I thought it was symbolic of her seeing us from here of forward. I thought she was seeing us as newly changed people. She even wrote that too me. But just like you said, whamo! Here are the problems back and bigger than ever.
We both must have done some rug sweeping because we both suggested and refused MC. Boy if only I knew. I would not have been so arrogant to think we were working through things.
When I refused I think it may have been the one time she made an honest effort at piecing. She brought up he PA during our S and wanted to tell me. Don't know if this was piecing or just her clearing her mind. We did have a good talk about it and since I had dealt with the possibility of these feelings I thought we didn't need MC to get through it. Our R felt strong at that point.
On different news, I am going to wait on sending the email.
I also have my first coaching session tonight at 10:00 and I am really excited.
M:34 XW:34 Together: 10y Living: 9y Married: 7y Son:6 Son:4 Separated: 12/28/13 Piecing: 5/2/14 Separated 2nd: 10/16/14 W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14 papers served: 1/27/15 D final: 3/6/15
