Gogofo - no longer piecing 2nd BD

[MrBond]

"I could definitely tell when she was trying because things were good."

Wrong. That's not trying. That's just sweeping things under the rug.

"The last trip we took on September 26th was amazing and she felt it too. She was trying and I have never stopped and it was evident."

Nope. Again, more rug sweeping. Just doing something fun together is just a band-aid to the problems underneath. It's avoiding the issue and doesn't work. Marriage problems are like a cancer. You can try to cover it up and pretend it isn't there. But it will grow and fester and come back ten times worse.

"Now she takes my changes and actions of caring as negative."

Yes because she didn't deal with this the first time.

"She told me she loves flowers, multiple times when reconciling and so I have kept her in flowers ever 2 weeks. I come home with flowers and replace the old flowers with the new ones."

Too much. See, you've made it all about YOU "making" her happy. No one should be responsible for another person's happiness.

"I also showed consideration when she took trips, giving her a bag with road snacks and a bottle of wine for when she gets there."

And what has SHE done for you?

"It feels like she is trying hard to find reasons not for us to be together."

No. You give her anything she wants and you reward bad behavior. She has no reason to change if she's going to keep reaping the benefits.

"I can tell the root of this is her pain from the past as she went back to our previous relationship problems and applied them to us now."

Issues from the past are understandable. But if you don't actually do something about it, the same problems will arise.

"I would like us to understand each other and go to MC. When I mentioned it on Friday she said she "doesn't have the time for MC" which is pretty much the truth."

You're actually making excuses for her. You MAKE the time. You went hunting. She does her own thing. You have the time. She just doesn't want to go.