Job, thanks for coming back... I do re-read my posts.. I think I am just in too deep to be able to see what is written in there.
I suggest you read sunshines threads then, if they are still available. Sunshine as she posted earlier, was just like you! and wow! What a transformation. Well done sunshine ! You might find seeing behaviours in someone else.
I don't think she would mind me saying that her threads were also like a soap opera.