Thanks Arcola. Is the affair still going on? The EA is usually a more powerful wedge than a PA, especially for women. I failed to understand that in my situation. I found it was impossible to rebuild my marriage while she refused to end the affair (claimed she wasn't pursuing it in couples therapy and was clearly lying about it). While the affair partner is in the picture, the marriage will always pale in comparison to the bright, shiny affair fantasy.
I truly hope that you make it through this. It is a horrible thing to experience and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Stay strong.
Me:40 EX-WAW:39 M:9 T:19, No Kids EA/PA with co-worker started: 9/24/12 - ongoing ILYBINILWY, S:9/25/12 MC 9/12-12/12 D: 9/13/13 EX-WAW and affair partner marrying 10/17/14
