raliced, you are my hero right now. You are handling things with such grace, and your lack of fear inspires me. I need to embrace that.
The one thing I would say is this: do not tell your H what your daughter said about loving you more. That will do damage, and he will blame you, and maybe even unconsciously take it out on your daughter. You are biting your tongue in your daughter's best interest, as she will have to have a relationship with that man for the rest of her life. You do not. Keep that in mind.
My daughter is angry with H -- calls him names behind his back, wants to punch him in face, is angry, says she wants to move away. I would LOVE to tell H all this, because it would show him the damage that he is doing, but I know I would end up looking like the bad guy. All I can do is validate her feelings and encourage her to build a loving trusting relationship with H. Even though he's lying to her constantly while promising to tell her the truth always. I have to leave that alone. You do to. It is hard!
Wishing you peace and strength.
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
