Hi south. Just looking at this again. Why do you feel the need to tell her your done? What will that achieve? Whether your done or not will that really change what you are doing/need to do?

If you really need to say it then do so in a letter (which you burn rather than give to her) or in a post on here.

Otherwise focus on you and your kids. You were the first to say it to me so let me hold that mirror up. Be a man only a fool would leave and if she doesnt see it then she's a fool and you deserve better.


Both mid 30s, 2 young kids
BD 7sep14
XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1
D paperwork in progress