with all the support you've been giving me on my thread just thought I'd pop in. Sorry to hear how difficult things are at the moment. As you know I didnt have the issue of anyone else "pulling" W away (unless you count MIL!) and S is with W so I wouldnt dream of giving an opinion on those aspects. Understand the sleep problems though, W used to comment on my being able to sleep anywhere, if tired I'd just drop off and be out until the alarm, not anymore now its a struggle to drop off and awake like you at all hours.
I'm not the best one to comment on options right now as you'll know I found more dumps under the dumps that I was down in, all I can suggest is keep doing what you're doing, you obviously are doing everything you can and then some for your kids and even if your S doesnt pick up on that at the moment you're letting him know you care on a daily basis and that you're there for him.
One of my 180s with my S is not just setting up things I want to do and bringing him but trying to do things he wants and going with him (different than just taking him). I know in your case he's actually an adult which is a far cry from my 9 / 10 year old (who varies between being 4 and 32 in attitude!) but is there anything you could arrange to go away with him on a trip or some away-days to have a change in scenery and remove immediate stress? Just a suggestion obviously, once my moving is sorted (if it ever is) Im planning on a trip to Alton Towers (theme park for those of you in the US although you do have much better ones )
As always thinking about everyone on here, if nothing else we know we're not the only ones in the world going through this, even if it feels like it.
Cheers
Ed
M:44, W:46, S:10 M 13 years, T 15 BD:23/7/2014 W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014 My new place: 21/11/2014 W/S back to flat 22/11/2014 W coming closer, talking 4/2015 Piecing 5/2015 Moving in again 6/2015
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