Im sorry it was context, I meant what would that mean to her as long as she is with the OM. I want to do this for myself, I have become lazy and settled and need to get out of that slump. I just want to understand the mindset of why these changes would matter to her if she is "happy" with the OM.
Also, no matter what SHE does, you would be in a much better place emotionally, by making these changes. The changes I'm thinking of are changes that will help you be a happier man. (I have suggestions for how to get started - but right now I feel as if you need persuading to believe in it as a concept).
You'd be a more loving involved man and less of a spectator in life. The comment you made about not being interested in having any friends, to me,
sounds a lot like someone who says "I am lonely but I am so used to it that inertia has kept me frozen and stuck and I am paralyzed".
But maybe you need to ask yourself this: WHAT is more frightening ---, to go on living like this and probably lose your wife for good, and an intact family, and to be distant from your children the rest of your life...
OR to make changes? Overcome your inertia and fear and that will be a start. [/color] [/quote]
I need changes, I have no doubts about that. This past two months have told me this at least, if nothing else.
