How to start rebuilding? - 2

[Hoju]

Well I'm 3 months in, looking back and reevaluating my progress. It's incredible how much can happen in such a short amount of time. I felt now was a good time to start a new thread as my other one is getting full, here's the link for those who want to catch up;

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...675#Post2497675

None of the goals I set for myself during my first read through of DR were achieved, they were too ambitious. My 180s have been a great success and have lead me towards a more fulfilling life. GAL has been going great, I barely have any time to just sit around, I've also realized what amazing family and friends I have. Probably the most important change is dynamic of the conversations between W and I have totally changed, she is no longer fearful to talk to me and what little contact we do have is very pleasant. She has also stated several times about my 180 changes and how proud she is that I'm making them, I also know she has been positively talking about me to her family.

I was hoping to get some help from the forums on setting some proper goals. I would like to focus on rebuilding a connection but I'm not entirely sure where to start. Here's what I was thinking:

I would like to be able to take her on a date.
Text more often about more personal things.
Have her slow things down where the separation is concerned.

The problem is these aren't action goals, I don't know what I can do to achieve any of these? I've never been good at goal setting Please help.