Ss: When I spoke to my DB counselor Leni about my fear of the friend zone, she completely dismissed that as a problem. Said that the foundation for a good relationship is friendship. And once they've had a romantic relationship with you, some of that never goes away. It may get buried for a while, but the embers are still there. My ex is still attracted to me (he recently cheated on the OW with me multiple times - small revenge HA!), but says he doesn't "feel it" (I guess he means being in love) for me. Which of course is ridiculous if he thinks he can compare our long term love with newly infatuated affair love. He is truly blind and crazy right now.
But I also know that a truly secure person would never have allowed himself to fall into this trap. My ex was very insecure, weak, selfish and succumbed to the ego boost the affair gave him. He knew that his behavior would deeply hurt me and he did it anyway. He has gotten so good at lying that I think he is believing his own BS.
Engaged Aug 2009 Fiancé had doubts Jan 2010 Happily re-engaged July 2012 Discovery of affair July 2014 Separated July 2014 Fiancé is confused about whom to choose Chose the OW Oct 2014
