I really struggle with the friend question. On one hand, it may help pave the path back home and give him opportunities to be reminded of what he gave up and how wonderful I am - poised, confident, kind, forgiving - the kind of woman he would be crazy to leave (though he did anyway).

On the other hand, I am really really angry with him right now in reality. I'm not sure I want this lying cheating disloyal bastard back after all the hurt he has put me through. And why would I want somebody like that as a friend??? I love him, but he old him - not this shell of a person I am seeing now.

I just can't decide if he is lost or if he is just fundamentally flawed and has a bad character.

Engaged Aug 2009
Fiancé had doubts Jan 2010
Happily re-engaged July 2012
Discovery of affair July 2014
Separated July 2014
Fiancé is confused about whom to choose
Chose the OW Oct 2014