I cannot accept that this is it.

[25yearsmlc]

I can only hope, but I'm a woman so you'd have to ask the men around.

My husband told me before, (and I know he still feels this way) that if we were to ever split and he were to date an OW, if she did not take to the kids - and they to her, she'd be out the door. I felt the same about OMs.

I can only assume that a man values the mother of his children in some honorific way. I sure hope so. (I admit that there may not be the same "need" of parenting from a stepmother, b/c the kids have their own moms, but that's not really the question you asked).

I think it's safe to say that a "bad mother" would be considered pretty bad news.