I think I keep trying to figure out the reason and rationality of his extreme stance on our marriage (leaving perhaps permanently). And the frustrating part is that it's not rational. Yes, I wasn't a good wife but given how we communicated, he could have said he was thinking of leaving permanently and suggestion some options he thought would help. To me that's the "healthy" way to go about it, right? My H keeps talking about what's "healthy" but come on.
Maybe this is me just being critical of even how he says he wants a divorce.
It's sick how I try to find holes in his logic so that's why he should stay.
I mean, we get along great, are good co-parents, laugh a ton together, can talk about anything, can gently poke fun at each other... He says he likes spending time with me and being around me... It makes no sense for him to leave permanently. For a time so he can evaluate whether he trusts my changes to be permanent and long term, sure, but forever?
And it's the logic or lack thereof that hurts and feels unjust. And I just want to argue it or poke holes in his argument as if he'll say, " oh, you're right, it's not logical or linear so I'll just pack my stuff and come home tonight."
