If you can agree something with out an adversarial D process that would better When my parents divorced it got really bitter because people were hurt and angry and the end result was 2 kids caught in tge middle and a lot of money to lawyers. The more you can keep it amicable the better.
I know a couple who have been fighting in court for 12 years after their D was final. The W's attorney's fees are $1.3 mil. That's insane. And their kids are really screwed up.
I know another couple who attended church as a family for years and years as their kids were growing up. A lot of us had no idea they were D. Their kids are great. The mom told me once that she bit her tongue a lot.
I want to be like the second couple. I know it's going to be hard. Good luck to us all.
