I used to get antsy about wanting to text my WAS, but then I realized it's satisfying to let him text me first and ignore him. LOL.
I have not had Any contact with her in any context direct or indirect since the day I went to jail. I also have no idea if she has thought about it or not. Some of me expected her to say..something on the 14 (our ten year date), but I have still heard Nothing from her, no tried contact at all. - I have no intention of trying so either. I believe it is in the best interest for her to make first contact - regardless of how long this takes.