How long does nothing take, for the points to matter? if there is a "time".
How I wish I knew this! I've been asking this question too in my conversation, but there doesn't seem to be a clear answer. You definitely seem to be way too early though. I'd expect that she will start reaching out to you, at least a little. A friend told me: "You'll know when it's time" Perhaps he's right, but that's not very precise either.
I suspect it's enough time for two processes to run their course. First, your wife has to de-escalate her negative feelings for you. At first, she wants out and far. All she'll give you is rejection. Then she'll feel a little less bruised and become less sensitive to your presence. She may see you as you are, not as you were. Second, you need to be in a better place where you have a life and you detach. It's almost impossible to bear this thought in the beginning, but I'm starting to understand that it's the only healthy way to get back together. If people tell me this, I resist, but I can see how it applies to other people. See what I mean? ;-)
Sorry I can't be of more help at the moment.
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
