Need help. Scared, confused pt 2

[Jefe]

Hope, It got a little nasty after that as I was having a hard time containing my frustration over the fact of the timing of the entire deal and the subject matter. I screwed it all up.

There were so many texts but I'll share most of the pertinent ones.

After she said "You can too"

M: No interest, thank you.
W: OK your choice
M: You already have been anyway
W: OK whatever you say.
M: I'm not real sure what you want me to say, really.
W: Just Informing you that's all

M:So kind of you to do this right now while I have our children at a family event.
W: Sorry
M: Well, I think we need to change our finincial and vehicular arrangements ASAP. I'm not going to support your destruction of the family.
W: So, what are you going to take from me then everything?
M: You're leaving everything, I'm taking nothing.


W: If you take the car that will be shi**y and I will be very pi**ed off. But whats new. You've taken everything from me anyway. I have nothing left.
M: You walked away,
W: I gave you 7 years the least you can do is give me the car unless you're too selfish and have to have it all to yourself.
M: I'm sorry I missed the part of the vows about 7 years was all we were obligated to. I'm not being selfish, I didn't leave you.
W: You've done your part too to destroy the marriage don't even try that sh*t with me.
M: I have done plenty, and I'm the one here standing for what's right willing to do whatever it takes to restore the marriage, so don't play that sh*t with me either.
W: I don't want the marriage
M: Obviously, but you ARE still married.
W: I've done my best and that's all I can do
W: Sorry
W: Then get the divorce papers and I'll sign them today.
W: I can't afford them

The next 20 minutes was a spewing of anger and I turned my phone on silent for a couple of hours.

Around 11 last night she sends:
W: Did you get the engine in yet?

W: I truly am sorry it didn't work out for you and I to stay together. I wish no Ill will against you. You are a great dad to our children and for that I'm grateful. I want to be your friend. Please don't make us enemies.

I didn't respond to either.

This morning at church she has hovered all around me probing for information on what I'm doing the rest of the day and such, and has even found a reason she needs to come to the house today, ugh. I've kept it short. At one point she said: "you sure are grouchy" and I said, "yup".

Tons of 2x4s coming my way, I'm sure. I blew the entire conversation after the dating bomb drop and I know it. The 37 flew right out the door. I forwarded the "dating" text to my sponsor right after she sent it to me and he called in the middle of this deal and told me to STFU and stop engaging in any more conversation. Go dark now, which I did.

Now she's texting wanting to know what she can do for us or get for us while she's out today. I hate this part of my life right now.