So true. For example, I woke up to these texts below. I'm not even sure where to respond or if I should. I'm not sure where she thinks I blame mental illness. I haven't responded and I'm not going to I don't think till I collect myself. If I respond at all. She's got a threat about S4s activities, and then lays several other things on the table. My first response was to argue her points, but I realize it doesn't matter, that's how she feels, and that can't be argued. Then I feel crappy about myself that the woman I spent so much of my adult life with perceived me that way. Then I tell myself she is rewriting marital history etc. Sure makes it hard to know what to believe. Except, I know I'm a good person, I have a good heart, and I'm full of love and caring. I just can't reach through to the one person that I want to. I think she's done......
Here's the texts from this AM
"Just FYI - I've just looked at my entire work schedule and there is not one day where I have a chance on Thursdays on my days with the kids for the rest of the year. So I will not be able to take S4 to hockey again. So, hopefully you've got it all planned like you said. "
"And PS every time you tell me to go be happy somewhere else you dismiss any responsibility that you had on the destruction of our marriage. You think it's okay to use my history of mental illness as a scapegoat for you being selfish and controlling. You were NOT a good partner at all to me. A good job does not make one a good partner. You gave nothing else to your role as partner and parent in our family. Nothing. So stop blaming my mental illness and treating me like a lost cause."
"Or we are going to have a toxic co-parenting relp for as long as I can last. When you get the accountant to send the past three years of all our financials personal and corp year ends please have him send them to my lawyer as well. I assume you've done this given you are meeting with your lawyer tomorrow and we need them for the separation agreement. And we need the agreement so you can buy me out of the house. If you're not prepared to do they by. Dec 31st, then the house will have to go on the market."
"I need it by then so I can have a couple of months to determine my options. I need to be in an new place by next summer. "
So my initial response was tossed out. I decided no response was necessary. What are everyone's thoughts? I welcome input here. Off to the pumpkin patch.....
