Moving towards mediation, need to stop limbo

[shodan]

On Friday, we had a good day. I came home from work and we went for a walk together with the dog. We talked about a variety of topics and had fun together. We spent the rest of the night hanging with the kids and acting like a typical family. That night we had a fun dinner and went to bed together (nothing happened, just laid on each other).

The next morning (Saturday) we had coffee together, took the kids to soccer and went to yoga together later in the day.

However, my W's demeanor on Friday, which was very family and marriage oriented, changed to more aloof on Saturday. While we are around each other a lot, my W seemed way more irritable. I mentioned something to her about it last night and she got a bit angry at me, asked what I wanted from her and what else she needed to do. I just said that I want to work on our M but that I also need to trust her again. I told her that I will need her help to do that. I then jut stopped talking about it.

Perhaps mind reading, I sensed that she was texting with the guy again on Saturday or maybe just continuing down the road of confusion. Clearly, i just need to continue to detach and be patient. She needs to choose to come back to our family and our M. I cannot make her do that and being too "pushy" and expecting us to be one big happy family/in love couple could come across as pursuing and will push her away.