That's 100% the right idea. And I'm waiting for my opportunity to say those exact words. Meantime, I'm reminding myself how much more effective it is to show her what her new life would look like in a new relationship with me. It's hard, with all the stresses of our lives, and with so many factors obviously remaining constant through this transition (kids, job, house).
Your thoughts on validating and accepting Ws feelings are very poignant. My ability to do this wildly varies, due to basically a lot of immature behavior from her. I hope you can document specific ways you are doing this!
M: 33 W: 33 M: 9 T: 10 3 S's: 8, 6 and 1.5 BD: 8/3/14 Living together
