Fresh separation - trying to play by the book

[Mozza]

Thank you all. I'm very grateful for the reactions and feedback.

Really inspiring stuff mozza. You are in the right place.

Sometimes, but not always. I still cry a lot, feel miserable, resent her for leaving, think of I could do for her instead of myself... About the only thing I do right consistently is to hold back from initiating communication.

Just like I told my wife early on, you don't have to remain in a bad marriage, we can work to make it better!

Bravo61 - Thanks a lot, I'm glad my words were of some comfort to you. We're going through very similar experiences. I would just frame your offer somewhat differently. We shouldn't ask our wives to go "back" anywhere. We should offer them a way forward, a fresh start. I know my wife is looking for something simple and easy and is completely daunted at the idea of working on our M. She won't hear a word of it. When she left, I told her that our relationship was over: either we go our separate ways or we have a brand new relationship. It was probably too pushy at the time, by DB standards, but I believe it was the right message. Another thing I tell her is that our R needed this step if it was ever to continue. Let's see if we meet on the other side of it. I don't know if it was the right thing to say, but it was the best I could think of at the time.