Healing or Stuck?

[sage]

Damn, Tal, could've written your last post (tho' not as eloquently!). No doubt I'm too far on one side about wanting to dissect what happened but I still struggle with h's "let's just move on" (or, even worse, "let's just end this"). Hey, I'm willing to compromise somewhere in the middle!

What feels like a necessary step in my healing (and OUR healing) just seems to feel like torture or more of the same to h. Ah, big ASSumption there, I suppose. Perhaps it just feels like pain to him.

I like that you told Wolfie that you weren't trying to punish him. Perhaps that's what h feels when I have tried to approach it with him...I'm sorry if it feels that way to him...I don't THINK that's what I'm trying to do...I think I'm just trying to get grounded.

Anyway...thanks for your continued postings on what is clearly a difficult topic.

sage