Jefe, my H also invited me to a festival, all friendly-like, then had a rendezvous with his "girlfriend" and confessed to me right after. Honestly, why do they bother? I makes me so angry when the WAS yanks our chain for no reason. Or worse, for their own selfish reasons. I'm not falling for that anymore. I'm only seeing him to discuss the paperwork for the dissolution of our marriage. There's no other reason to spend time together and act like a phoney happy family. I'm being totally friendly and compassionate toward him when we do meet, but I have no desire to pal around town with him. It's totally awkward and lame. I have plenty of other friends whose company I enjoy more. I'll be you do too. Go spend time with them and forget about her. If she comes running back later, so be it. But give yourself a bit of time and space. You are wounded and need some healing time to yourself. Don't waste any more energy on her for the time being.
Vets, please feel free to contradict me. I've DBed myself off the cliff of caring, and it's probably tainted my advice.
Last edited by Ahoy; 10/19/1402:15 AM.
M: 43 H: 39 D: 14 Married 15 Together 16 BD: 6/2014 S: 8/2014 OW revealed 10/2014 Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress So over it!
