later on W said "hey we communicated. i told you what i wanted and you helped without fighting." i told her i would've helped earlier but i didn't want to send the message that i didn't think she could handle it. i wanted to respect her boundaries. she said that for a lot of years she had held in resentment cause she thought i would see her struggling and wouldn't help her. i gently let her know that i made a lot of wrong assumptions too and i should been more available to give help willingly and not grudgingly. she looked at me very thoughtful after that.
If your recounting is accurate, that's as much hope as you'll get at this stage. You've done superbly by changing your patterns. It sounds like opening up has even done some good. We shouldn't mind read, but it looks like a small victory for the day. Many of us yearn for this kind of positive interaction. Congrats. (Still: keep the pace and don't get your hopes too high!)
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
