me: can we sit down soon and go over the calendar? I feel like there are a lot of emails back and forth and it's hard to keep track.
H: Sure. But can I ask what's the confusion? I didn't think there was any confusion, I mean I'm fine to meet, but...
me: Ok, we don't have to meet, maybe we can just put it all on one email. It's hard to keep track when it's in all different threads.
H: no, it's fine to meet. I think what we have to figure out is New Year's and Thanksgiving. Did you say your family is having a party on the Saturday of Thanksgiving this year?
((Nope, no confusion at all!)) #WAHckadoo
I say on one hand it's not a biggie, but on the other hand
Don't meet, unless HE suggests it. Otherwise he's doing YOU a favor, which you will then "owe" him.
When you do see him, and you will, you can better show the new you.
But please realize when you say "I feel like there's a lot of emails back and forth---hard to keep track"
I bet this is what HE THINKS YOU SAID (in a shrill FISH WIFE yell, of course)
"Hey stupid H, as usual you are MUCKING up everyone's lives with Your confusing MLC mind, so can we please sit down and straighten out the mess YOU made...again...please?"
So, that's my .02 Keep calm and never describe an interaction in a way that HE can feel you are slighting him.
1) APPLAUD loudly for the 1% of positives he does,
2) Listen like a lover ,when he talks about problems (other than any OW's of course)
3) Be warm and upbeat. You can regret the divorce but mostly for HIS sake b/c deep down, we all know who is losing more. And that's the truth. And while you have regrets for your kids and for him, you actually now realize you are becoming the best Claire you have ever been, and that's pretty sweet. An inner peace is growing within you, and you are a better woman for all this crap.
In fact, you have the advantage of knowing the truth, and living it. HE doesn't.
Does this clarify or help anything for you? I'm really just thinking out loud.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
