WAW still at home 12 weeks after asking for D

[MrBond]

"It has become VERY clear to me that I was in love with being married, not in love with my wife."

You've fallen into the same trap that many LBS's do when things don't go their way. This is the same thinking your W has which made her walk away in the first place. That is just total BS. This is the first stage that starts you going off finding someone else and then when you've completely dropped the rope, your W will start being attracted to you again because there's no pressure. But it will be too late because you've already convinced yourself that you weren't "in love" with your W.

Problem is that you're going to keep looking for that "in love" person same as your W and won't find it because you haven't finished the work on yourself. You might even find someone very quickly and say that you've never been so much "in love" before and after a few months or years, the same situation will come up again that landed you here in the first place.

I say that because I see it time and time and time again. And all of the people who left, found someone new, ended up coming back here again and wondering what happened. They ALL said the same thing... "It has become VERY clear to me that I was in love with being married, not in love with my wife."

I've read your threads and you've got a long way to go. But good luck to you.