Well, it all feels rather strange. We've been together for a decade, have raised his kids/my kids, and now have managed to walk through the hot coals of the aftermath of infidelity.
Part of the reason we're doing this now is because we're not getting any younger here and if something were to happen to one of us, there is risk. Even if a State recognizes Common Law Marraige or Meritricious Relationships, the feds don't. In reality, that means that military retirement $ and medical care would not be available to me if he died.
Both of would have our social secruity $ go to our ex-spouses if we died. THAT is unacceptable, no way!
I suppose that there is also the factor that makes many couples decide to renew their vows when they are recovering (piecing) after a crisis in their marraige.
