I was ready to drop the rope earlier because I knew he was lying to me about OW, and honestly, I don't want a partner who is a liar. Call me rigid, but that's the truth. Still, I would be willing to try to reconcile and see what is possible, even so. But that process takes two, and he is not participating. Instead I am focusing on having an amicable split, as you are. My H is very irresponsible financially and also has dropped me from his health insurance for next year, so being legally divided from him will actually give me peace of mind, since I'm pretty much on my own anyway and don't want to be liable for his poor choices.

I know things change in time, so I can't say that I wouldn't ever consider reconnecting with him down the line, but right now I'm really not interested.

I hope you keep feeling strong and good, bdub. You deserve awesomeness.

M: 43 H: 39
D: 14
Married 15 Together 16
BD: 6/2014
S: 8/2014
OW revealed 10/2014
Instigated dissolution 12/2014, in progress
So over it!