WAW + divorce filed, Becoming-V2 - part 1

[Ahoy]

B-V2,
Even though the text you sent had a positive message, reaching out to W's relative is a no-no and against sandi's rules. If you look back at the chain of events, you can trace it back to that catalyst.

Perhaps in your mind you felt that having this open conversation with her would give you a better understanding of the situation, but you only ended up feeling worse in the end.

Next time, try to hold back on your impulses to communicate with her and her family.

You need to drop the rope and move on with your life. Perhaps in the months to come she will attempt to reconnect with you, but right now she is giving you a clear message that she wants you to back off. And it will not attract her if you are needy and upset. It will have the opposite effect. When you are feeling that way, try reaching out to your own friends and family and this board instead. We all need to vent our emotions.

Stay strong!