Ugh- Sorry for your daughter Ahoy. And I wouldn't feel bad about inadvertantly letting the cat ut of the bag. Your daughter is a smart girl and your husband is nota smart guy at the moment and she would have figured it out pretty quickly. From all you've written, it sounds like she had her suspicions too and probably didn't want to believe it.
I struggle with the craziness thing as I'm sure my H is depressed, which is a "sickness" after all. But they still had some free will in there.
I'd say "Hang in There"- but it sounds like you're doing pretty well.
