WAW + divorce filed, Becoming-V2 - part 1

[Fartiltre]

Take the pressure TOTALLY off her - TOTALLY!!

You do NOT know where she is, what it is her mind or what will happen and you can't trust what comes out of her mouth!

Start working you! Stop wondering about her state of mind - it will do you absolutely no good!

I understand that this is so easy to say and so F'ing hard to do but it is the ONLY way to move forward right now!

Stop calling her!
No R-talk at all unless she initiates.
Read Sandi2’s rules every morning
Journal more often in here - it will help you take off the tension and it will help you clarify the thoughts in your mind.
Find out what kind of man you want to be and then start transforming yourself into this man.

I really need to detach and work on me exclusively!

Detachment comes with time but you can start acting as if! IMHO you can’t decide to detach. Detachment follows automatically if you do the work!
I fully agree on the "work on me" - THAT'S your prime (if not only) focus

About the letter……
With this development and her statement about pressure I would seriously give the letter some more thoughts. I recommend that you do not send it – it will (no matter what) put further pressure on her!

Is this her indirect non-confrontation version of "I am fully done, please never ever see me again"?

My guess is that not even she knows right now! ….furthermore if it is so, it can easily change tomorrow. I have seen it many times here!
….BUT do look at her this way!
If she is really totally gone for good what will make you the best and happiest man on earth. Case is that good, happy and self-confident men attracts women and that goes for your W as well.

So start defining what will make you happier tomorrow than yesterday! Make the list and get to work. This will not be over in a few days but the sooner you start working the faster you will get through and maybe you W will follow you!